Initial days

So we have seen he pregnancy tests last time. Now, the sickness. Pregnancy is synonymous to morning sickness. Get up in the morning brush your teeth ‘Thup’. Drink Tea, coffee or milk, Thup. Eat something cook something, smell something Thup, Thup, thup. There can be several reasons behind this like increased hormonal level, decreased blood sugar etc. Level and type of sickness can be different for different pregnancies. In most cases, vomiting stops by the fourth or fifth month, which makes me feel that BETA HcG is the reason behind this.

Minor sickness can be ignored and cured with home remedies. Having lime water helps sometimes. Fry cumin seeds and boil water putting these fried seeds. This helps in some cases. Smelling lemon helps some ladies. Put a kalimirch in your  But these are all relative. Sickness during pregnancy is a tricky thing. We never know what helps for each person. If you feel that you are dehydrated, do consult your Gyn.

I had severe headache during the first trimester. As mentioned before I had no idea that I was pregnant and took medications for migraine. Thankfully nothing dangerous happened to the baby even if migraine medicines are not advisable during pregnancy.

It is said that we shouldn’t reveal the news of pregnancy to anyone till 3 months. This is because first three months, chances of miscarriage are more. If you find unusual spotting do consult a Gyn.

That’s all for today guys. See ya next week

Checkout related posts here

Cherishing that tiny heart beat

Understanding the purple lines

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Cashless or Cash less

I am a PayPal account holder. Yesterday I got a mail which went like this

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I clicked the link but it opened with a URL with a different domain. It wasn’t an HTTPS link. Hence I didn’t login but sent a mail to the PayPal people instead. I got a mail informing me that my account is perfect and the other mail was sent by some cyber frauds. The following is the body of the mail. I believe this holds true for all online wallets. Hence I share it here

Did you know that approximately 90% of all email sent worldwide falls
into the spoof, phishing, spam, and general junk category?  By
submitting reports of suspicious email to us you are helping to address
this problem.

To help you identify suspicious email, below are a few things that
PayPal will never do in an email communication:

1. Send an email to: “Undisclosed Recipients” or more than one email
address
2. Ask you to download a form or file to resolve an issue
3. Ask to verify an account using personal information such as name,
date of birth, driver license, or address
4. Ask to verify an account using bank account information such as bank
name, routing number, or PIN number
5. Ask to verify an account using credit card information such as credit
card number or type, expiration date, ATM PIN number, or CVV2 security
code
6. Ask you for your security question answers without displaying each
security question you created
7. Ask you to ship an item, pay a shipping fee, send a Western Union
Money Transfer, or provide a  tracking number before the payment
received is available in your transaction history

Any time you receive an email about activity to your PayPal account, the
safest way to confirm the validity is to login directly to the PayPal
website and review the relevant section. If you see suspicious activity,
you would do the following:

1. Open a new browser and type in “www.paypal.com
2. Log in to your PayPal account.
3. Click “Activity” near the top of the page.
4. Click on the suspicious transaction to expand the details.
5. Click “Report this as unauthorized”
6. Complete the report process on the next screen.

It’s sophisticated to be cashless but make sure you won’t go cash less with a simple mistake. Share this to maximum people to prevent your friends from being cheated

Understanding the purple lines

Last week we had reached a pact on discussing about the UPT (Urine Pregnancy Test). Here I am with the new post. I had done the blunder of going to a Gyn as soon as I felt I have conceived. Thankfully I was. But, there have been cases when the whole family sets out for a hospital visit spree to come back disappointed. To avoid that predicament, do the UPT at home before running to a Gyn. Even if you are highly educated and well knowledgeable there can be instances when you misread your pregnancy test. It can be either due to ignorance, or lack of proper instructions in the kit or nervousness. A NEGATIVE UPT DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN THAT YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT. For a first time mother, right from reading the test, everything is a dilemma. So first let’s  see how to analyse a UPT.

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There have been cases when a single line is misunderstood for a positive result. Any urine sample would give a single line. It is the control band. To compare the test sign. So, if someone say that a single line is positive, tell them that even their sample would give a single line. If that single line is not there that means the whole kit is a waste of money and time. It is mentioned in the kit that you should take the first sample in the morning, you should not drink water etc. It hasn’t worked in my case. My first UPT was done in the evening and I also had a lot of water. But again it is always good to follow the instructions. There can be cases of feeble positive line. Feeble or strong, a second purple line means it is positive. But we should definitely consult a Gyn. The feeble line can either be an indication that Beta hCG is not yet produced or an indication of ectopic  (tubal)pregnancy.

Beta hCG (human Chorionic Gonadotropin) is a hormone produced during pregnancy, the quantity of which is analysed during the pregnancy test. UPT will be positive only if beta hCG level is high. Sometimes, perhaps due to irregular periods or late conception, beta hCG level would not be sufficient to show in the UPT but a blood test might show a higher level. For my second pregnancy, I had four negative UPT and one negative blood test. But I had a motherly instinct that I hav3 conceived and did another UPT, which was feebly positive , followed by a blood test. This might be Thu reason why it is said that you should do the UPT about a week after missed periods. You can repeat after one more week if you didn’t have the periods.

That much for now.Time for the congrats and sweets. Next week we will see the problems during the first trimester. I again confirm that I am not a doctor.I am sharing my experiences as a mother of three children. Because sometimes, experiences help you more than theories.

Telling your child about good and bad touch

This post was posted in Outset about two years back. As per request, I am reposting it here in Scrutiny

The incident which happened in Bangalore a year back still send chill through my spines. Since my child started going to school, I was always thinking about how to make her distinguish between good and bad.

It’s really confusing since we have to caution them from even our friends and close relatives without offending them. We pick and drop our child to our school but are they safe at school? They ought to be but you never know. They might be confused  if it’s okay when the school caretaker help them remove their undergarments? Since they are just toddlers they might need help with it. So, where lies the line between good and bad touch. We know, but do they know?

For that,  we need to educate them about their body parts naming them the way it suits their age. Tell them that its not permissible to touch them or to show them unless they need to be cleansed, which is the role of their parents or caretakers. Again, can we trust the caretakers? There lies the importance of understanding what’s  abuse. Make them understand the difference. DON’T UNDERESTIMATE YOUR CHILD. Don’t think that they won’t understand if you tell all these. They are way too intelligent than you think.

Another point is, don’t force them to kiss or hug a relative or friend or a stranger if they are not comfortable, how ever close they might be. Because, this might send wrong signs. They might think that its okay to be close with people whom they are not comfortable with. Its doesn’t mean that you should keep your friends and relatives away. Just talk to them. They will understand and if they don’t, their friendship or relationship is not worth it.

These are all easy to say but difficult to practice. There is someone who will help us with this.

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Cherishing that tiny heart beat

I have been requested on and on  to write about my experiences with three pregnancies and apparently motherhood that follows. As a person who is obsessed with privacy, I have always kept my personal and professional arenas at bay. Nevertheless, I was unable to misheed the requests. Hence here I am with my first post in the series Prengancy and motherhood.

It is a mandatory custom in Indian household to be ready with the question ” When can we see the little one ” exactly a month after marriage. It is as if marriage is a football match and folks around are waiting for the goal. ‘ The penis shoots the sperm it dodges the forward, defense and tribbles the way through the opposite team goal post aka uterus. The goalkeeper aka egg dives in the air and catches the ball And it’s  a GOAL sorry zygote’. Does it work that way???  Sadly the women folks who knows about the reality are the ones to sit in the gallery and wait for the goal. Following the custom, I was also asked the same question ” When can we see the little one” not by my family though. 

Nothing prepares you for the big news but experience. No biotechnological knowledge prepared me to understand that the spotting I found was not due to climate change or honeymoon stress but a tiny dot in my womb. Again presuming the dark spot was misplaced ‘chums’ I waited for a month more for the next blood in the moon which never came. That was a moment when I came face to face with the motherhood question. Am I or Am I not? Instead of choosing the easy way of the UPT or the Urine Pregnancy  Test at home, we went to the hospital right away. The first question that the doctor asked me was ‘Did you do the UPT?’. Well, thankfully, without much cribbing, she prescribed a Urine test and asked us to wait. 

The moment came. YES IT’S positive. I mean really? ?? My husband was like ‘Are you sure?’. It took an hour more for the reality to sink in. The first instruction I got was not to tell anyone outside family till the third month. I couldn’t wait to but I did. Wait, wait and wait to tell my friends, relatives, cousins everyone. For me, till the seventh month or precisely 27 weeks everything was smooth and fine. What happened afterwards will be shared in the further posts.

Every Time, getting the positive UPT or passing the three month hurdle is not as easy as it seems. Next week we will see how to identify a positive and negative UPT and risks during the first three months.

The Woman who proved reservation is nothing if you are determined 

She did not contest elections with the aide of reservation. She didn’t cry for positions to be placed in golden plates. She was rejected once. She didn’t create any melodrama.Once of the most headstrong women in the history of India, No, womanhood. No other politicians in the recent time, both men and women, would have received this level of love, affection and acceptance.Salute to the talented,lovable, head strong,  determined, Amma of lakhs. 

Will National Anthem in theaters induce patriotism?

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Yesterday I went to a movie after so long. It was a feel good experience to break free once in a while. After settling me in a cozy chair, hubby went to grab eatables. My little angel stirred in my lap indicating that he too wants to munch something. To avoid another screaming session, I indulged him in his favorite past time- Feeding. I thanked the soul who invented Poncho tops which enabled me to feed my kid in public. Suddenly the movie screen flickered and a message came- Kindly stand up for the national anthem. Then I remembered the new Supreme court verdict. With a feeding child on my lap, how am I supposed to stand up. If I disengage his milk source, he will scream louder than any anthem. So I stood up with him attached to my bosom. Thanks to the poncho. I felt ashamed that I was not standing to attention and looked around to see if someone noticed this. I couldn’t say if I was happy or sad to see what I saw.

A gentleman was standing with a tubful of popcorn, needless to say that he was flagrantly masticating his popcorn, but he stood alright? Another guy was standing with his hands folded, but he stood alright? A third person was talking to his friend, but he stood alright? This left me wondering about the purpose of the verdict. By simply standing up, will it show respect. Before imposing such faux pas, an indication on how to conduct oneself in such situations ought to be given.

One should stand to attention. One should never be under the influence of any substance or intoxication and so and so. Who will monitor these things? Who will ensure that the decorum is maintained? Can we dump the responsibilities on the theater authorities?

It is clearly mentioned that,

  1. Whenever the Anthem is sung or played, the audience shall stand to attention. However, when in the course of a newsreel or documentary the Anthem is played as a part of the film, it is not expected of the audience to stand as standing is bound to interrupt the exhibition of the film and would create disorder and confusion rather than add to the dignity of the Anthem.
  2. As in the case of the flying of the National Flag, it has been left to the good sense of the people not to indulge in indiscriminate singing or playing of the Anthem.

My doubt is whether this verdict will lead to reconstitution of constitution of India or is it unconstitutional. I am not the right person to comment on the verdict but I would expect at least some of the citizens who read this post to think about the real respect and disrespect. By simply standing, you are not showing respect to national anthem. If you munch on something, or talk  or or stand in any other posture than attention or even sing national anthem along with the played song, you are showing disrespect.

P.S: I have no idea about how a differently abled person or a mother who is carrying her child should conduct themselves. If anyone know about it , kindly enlighten me.

Jai Hind